Resources we Love to Support your Next Steps!

These are great resources for inspiring growth, motivation, life satisfaction, positivity and improved relationships with yourself and others.

Breakup Recovery:

It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken
by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt
From the co-author of He’s Just Not that Into You comes a frank and lively book that provides a road map for helping you get past your breakup.
The Buddha Breakup by Stephanee Killen A more intimate guide to help you get over your heartbreak while providing a platform for self-growth on a deeper level. This book offers science and techniques for your grief while allowing you to work on acceptance and personal growth.

Dating & Relationships:

State of Affairs by Ester Perel
Why do people cheat? Perel provides an “understanding of the intricacies of love and desire” and how infidelity is an extremely common human experience that is so poorly understood.
The Dance of Connection by Harriet Lerner
Important book for couples struggling with ambivalence and/or connection after a relational trauma. Dr. Lerner teaches readers how to “dance” with difficult relationship issues and communication.
Mr. Unavailable & The Fallback Girl by Natalie Lui
Emotionally unavailable partners, this book explains the dynamic within different versions of this relationship and how to extricate yourself from the cycle.
Love Factually by Duana Welch
A science-based book that guides men and women through every phase of dating, from before you meet to commitment.
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, Ph.D. A quick and easy read to learn how you express and receive love: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.
Attached By Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F.Heller, M.A., Learn what you or your partner’s attachment style (secure, anxious or avoidant) is and how it impacts your relationship as well as how to improve your relationship.
Boundaries in Dating By Henry Cloud and John Townsend Great for males and females. Dating is fun but can be tricky. This book lays out how to set healthy boundaries, roles and expectations and how to navigate the hiccups. It has a religious undertone at times but this book is a solid and valuable resource for those who are and aren’t religious.
Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough By Lori Gottlieb Is there such a thing as a soul mate or Mr./Mrs. Perfect? This book examines dating habits and relationships today and provides guidance and insight on how to better assess and find the right partner for you.

Self-Growth and Life Transitions

The Reality Slap by Russ Harris Life hits us in many ways: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment, and rejection. Russ Harris teaches us how to get through tough times, cope better and find happiness.
Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown A captivating audiobook on things that hold us back from vulnerability such as perfectionism, avoidance of emotion, shame, and self-defense tactics. Dr. Brene Brown’s research proves that vulnerability is the birthplace of joy, belonging, creativity, authenticity, and love. She covers stories, insights, research and “how to” techniques.
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie If you have a pattern of unhealthy relationships, feeling “needy”, being with people that don’t meet your emotional needs, struggle with boundaries in relationships or have difficulties saying “no”, this book may be for you.
Spirit Junkie: A Radical Road to Self-Love and Miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein This is a down to earth guide about “how to” change your struggles through acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude.
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach, Ph.D. For those interested in increasing self-acceptance, decreasing critical self-judgments and relieving emotional struggles.
The Defining Decade by Meg Jay An important discussion with research on making decisions in our 20’s to set yourself up successfully for your 30’s. This book is also great for 30 somethings.

Misc:

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain One-third of the people we know are introverts. Cain argues that we dramatically undervalue introverts and shows how much we lose in doing so.

TED Talks:

The Anatomy of Trust by Brene Brown
In this SuperSoul Sunday Session, Dr. Brené Brown defines and helps us understand how trust is created and lost using the acroynim B.R.A.V.I.N.G
Helen Fisher: The Brain of Love
“Why do we crave love so much?” Helen Fisher discusses her research and findings on love and heartbreak
Rethinking Infidelity, Esther Perel
Satirical take on what works and doesn’t work in relationships. Good for couples working on communication, and learning the importance of vulnerability and emotional availability.
Happiness Podcast by Dr. Robert Puff

#39 Happiness – How to Lose Anger and Find Happines – explores the cause of anger and how to disipate it.

Articles :

Being Broken in a Pile on your Bedroom Floor By Julie Peters There is power in brokeness.
Let it Go by Danna Faulds A poem for when you’re need to move past something difficult and ‘let go’.
Manage Conflict: The Six Skills; Gottman Institute 6 steps that couples can refer to when dealing with conflict. It can be helpful in creating direction around conflict
How to Resist Our Age of Resentment by Peggy Drexler Social media, and its toxicity: “Toxic feelings of inadequacy are on the rise, fueled by social media, but there are ways to stay sane”
Why Our Mental Health Takes a Village by Elizabeth Bernstein It’s important to not rely on one person to be your everything. Thi article discusses why it’s vital to build a tribe of supportive allies.

Quizzes and Meditations:

Decifer your Attachement Style or Your Partner’s by Levine and Heller What is your relationship attachement style and your partners: Secure, Anxious, or Avoidant?
5 Love Language by Gary Chapman How do you express and recieve love? Learn what your and your partners love languages are.
Inner Child Meditation by Jason Stephenson Powerful meditation if you’re struggling with identity or wanting peace
Kristin Neff: Self Compassion mediations Meditations for self-compassion